Dating Apps

[Stirlingsays]

Went something like:

You’re very wet

I’m too wet

She indeed was. You just don’t need it I tell yah.

Oh I see....a bloody hell.

 

[Rudi Hedman]

So i'm just getting over divorce number two and i was thinking of dipping my toes back into the pit of treacherous illogical snakes. Any good advice? Would you recommend Facebook dating?

Bit early for me to say but when you slightly increase your radius bit by bit, you start getting loads more options. But as my preference radius includes London, I’m getting lots of European women who are obviously money grabbers. It’s so obvious thankfully.

Only seen 2 quality women so far. One twice and the other once after a few weeks. Both aren’t feeling it romantically which is bloody difficult when you’re new to this as you don’t know them at all really. Maybe I’ll get better at it or they just don’t see me as their match but some will. I’ve aimed high I have to say, but I’m also getting lots of pigs aged 10 years older than me liking me so I delete them straight away.

I would do Facebook dating because it’s free and pick a paid for app or 2 that fits your age or aim. Do some research

Tinder
Hinge
Bumble
Match etc

I’m going to join 2 when I’ve sorted some things out in a few months but not yet, so for now it’s facebook only

 

[Cartman]

Due to my extremely busy schedule as a teacher and now coach, I don't have time to go out to clubs or wherever else people my age tend to go to meet people. I tried Bumble for awhile but nothing really came of it, same for Plenty of Fish.

Recently got onto Hinge, will see how it goes.

In general I am in no rush though, the right woman will come along and will go on some dates in the meantime.

 

[Rudi Hedman]

Due to my extremely busy schedule as a teacher and now coach, I don't have time to go out to clubs or wherever else people my age tend to go to meet people. I tried Bumble for awhile but nothing really came of it, same for Plenty of Fish.

Recently got onto Hinge, will see how it goes.

In general I am in no rush though, the right woman will come along and will go on some dates in the meantime.

I don’t think people do go out to meet people anymore. People barely even go out. The world has changed for the worse.

 

[Stirlingsays]

Apparently if you're a bird just making milkshakes will bring the boys to your yard.

If you're a bloke I suggest making about 150 grand a year would bring plenty of interested b1tches to yours.

 

[Rudi Hedman]

Just had a conversation on the phone with a high achieving marketing professional. We touched on multiple dating. Bad move to do that so early but phone conversations like that aren’t easy in my opinion.

Anyway, I said I didn’t intend to do it but girl 1 swayed me to decide to multi date and I see the logic. Oops. Lady on the phone didn’t like it but I rescued it by saying if she did want to see me I wouldn’t do it anymore, which would be easy seeing as my dating calendar is currently empty. She wants to have more phone conversations before meeting. That is I suppose unless she texts me to say she’s thought about it and she’s decided I’m not for her.

Man these high value women. They all have different combinations of opinions and stuff. They’re like us. Why?… 😂 Actually they’re not like us…

 

[PalazioVecchio]

Man these high value women. They all have different combinations of opinions and stuff.

what some people call 'high value', other people call 'high maintenance'.

Dating Apps. Men go onto them looking for bedroom fun. And maybe a bit of companionship without too much drama. The presence, or absence, of previous kids will dramatically change expectations.

Women go onto dating apps looking for a committed partner, a relationship, and possibly a benefactor. The bedroom fun is implicit but they can get that easily elsewhere anyway.

both get disappointed with all the time wasting and annoying expectations of the other side. Just like a footballer, many people's past continues to follow them, and to repeat over and over.

 

[Rudi Hedman]

what some people call 'high value', other people call 'high maintenance'.

Dating Apps. Men go onto them looking for bedroom fun. And maybe a bit of companionship without too much drama. The presence, or absence, of previous kids will dramatically change expectations.

Women go onto dating apps looking for a committed partner, a relationship, and possibly a benefactor. The bedroom fun is implicit but they can get that easily elsewhere anyway.

both get disappointed with all the time wasting and annoying expectations of the other side.

I disagree. There’s a difference.

High-maintenance women often expect their partner to cater to their every need without offering the same level of support in return. Not really the same as gold diggers, but people mix the 2.

High value women. I’ve pasted off google to be accurate…

A high-value woman is confident, ambitious, respectful, and compassionate, so she isn't afraid to go after what she wants and deserves. In pop culture, a high-value woman is often considered “marriage material,” or one of the most desirable partners for men.

By definition, the high value woman in the current pop culture refers to a woman who has a very high emotional intelligence and as such, embraces her femininity, is self-confident, has a high self-esteem and knows her self-worth. Probably many in London now. Many of them single because men don’t come up to standard.

12 Key Traits of High-Value Women: A Blueprint for Empowerment

In a world constantly evolving and redefining success, the concept of being a high-value woman transcends material wealth or social status. It’s about embodying traits that inspire, uplift, and foster personal and professional growth.

www.linkedin.com

 

[Rudi Hedman]

what some people call 'high value', other people call 'high maintenance'.

Dating Apps. Men go onto them looking for bedroom fun. And maybe a bit of companionship without too much drama. The presence, or absence, of previous kids will dramatically change expectations.

Women go onto dating apps looking for a committed partner, a relationship, and possibly a benefactor. The bedroom fun is implicit but they can get that easily elsewhere anyway.

both get disappointed with all the time wasting and annoying expectations of the other side.

I expect you’re statistically right on this though. In fact it’s true in the wild outside of dating apps.

 

[Stirlingsays]

While jokes are jokes I would say that overall I don't regard dating apps as healthy for society in general.

If I had a daughter and she was using them I'd be in horror and I think it's kind of illustrative of just how far expectations of women in society have fallen...especially for working class women...and that's despite all the warm words that are put out publicly.

I remember my grandmother's generation from the women in my own family as a youngster. They use to run families and actually have real status.

I observe a lot of women being sold a bill of goods that ends in bitterness and loneliness......I think we are well into the second generation of that personally.....there's a lot of bitter lonely cat women out there already.

 

[Forest Hillbilly]

Some of the profile photos of young ladies, mostly from London, seem to show Eastern-European types in their underwear, lying on mattresses on a floor. It just seems to ring a few alarm bells for me, that there are people being exploited out there. And if you met with one of the ladies, wouldn't you risk being jumped on by their pimps and having your money stolen ?

Still, the profile pictures were worth a cheeky w***. 🙂

 

[Rudi Hedman]

While jokes are jokes I would say that overall I don't regard dating apps as healthy for society in general.

If I had a daughter and she was using them I'd be in horror and I think it's kind of illustrative of just how far expectations of women in society have fallen...especially for working class women...and that's despite all the warm words that are put out publicly.

I remember my grandmother's generation from the women in my own family as a youngster. They use to run families and actually have real status.

I observe a lot of women being sold a bill of goods that ends in bitterness and loneliness......I think we are well into the second generation of that personally.....there's a lot of bitter lonely cat women out there already.

Hence why there’s a lot on dating apps, only they’re waiting for Brad Pitt as we know. The only places a lot of people can meet now is work, public transport, the supermarket and possibly the gym. Unlikely.

 

[PalazioVecchio]

A hundred years ago, people entered relationships partly through desire and partly duty. Focussing on what they could give to their partner, what roles and duties they could serve. Forming a family unit fairly quickly. Kids and marriage quickly trundling along. Often the couple getting together without much previous mileage on the clock...pair bonding successfully like a couple of birds in a nest.

today, its all about take. What can i get. Often people with a ton of mileage on the clock...flitting from nest to nest. And when the going gets tough....they scarper. What percentage of today's school-leavers will be sitting in the retirement home with the person they met young ? Previously , that was the norm.

As Sterling says, dating apps are probably bad, and worsen the flighty nature of our relationships. Women aged 23 have a hundred suitors chasing them, and the same women are single at age 53. In the UK 100 young women are probably pursued by 120 young men....distorting much of the behaviours. Another distortion is the safety net of Social Welfare.........choose a handsome unemployed fella rather than a plain bloke with a good job.
Behaviours considered normal in places like Latin America, Japan, or India. Not so much here. Every couple on your high street seems to involve a fella over six foot two.

 

[Badger11]

Some of the profile photos of young ladies, mostly from London, seem to show Eastern-European types in their underwear, lying on mattresses on a floor. It just seems to ring a few alarm bells for me, that there are people being exploited out there. And if you met with one of the ladies, wouldn't you risk being jumped on by their pimps and having your money stolen ?

Still, the profile pictures were worth a cheeky w***. 🙂

It's more likely to be a complete fake using pictures off the internet. If you start a conversation with them how long before they ask for money for their sick mother.

Dating apps aren't wrong and can be positive as it allows a person to look outside of their work/family/neighbours group for a potential partner. It's what happens afterwards when the meet someone and have children then one buggers off, that is the issue.

 

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[Rudi Hedman]

Looking for friendship in skimpy bikinis. Definitely would…. Meet up and get turned over for my wallet, phone and PIN number. Buggered