About 5 or so weeks ago I connected with a really nice lady. Arranged a date, then she had to postpone because she didn’t feel well. That turned into a really bad virus that lasted a few weeks. I decided to not multi date at this point because I could sense it wasn’t a good idea with her and I also got a bit bored with it, as people do I think.
Finally she recovers after we message each other every half a week and we have a really good first date in a bar for 4 hours. She only drinks one drink so it doesn’t require alcohol for her, not that it does for me. I had 3 beers so not a lot. Loads of positive body language etc. 2nd date the week after in a bar again and it was ok, only she sat opposite rather than next to me, and the folded arms happened late on. She acted awkwardly saying goodbye and turned the cheek at the goodbye hug. Oh dear
Next morning at 9am being the earliest opportunity to politely message and to save any embarrassment perhaps, she messages the half expected. Problem is there loads of positives, including how much she enjoys being with me, can be herself, tell me anything, really good connection and best she’s had internet dating, she got the sudden realisation at the end of the night she needs to process it all and came to the conclusion she’s not feeling enough intensity.
Now if she was plain not interested it would be easier to accept. Plus if she wasn’t such a nice person in a lot of ways too. But I’m told I’m this great guy that shouldn’t change in any way, internet dating was a disappointment until she met me and I will get snapped up quickly and how she knows it’s going to be a long time until she has such a strong connection like this again, plus kiss emojis. So why? But she did say something about meeting ‘’My person.’’ That could mean someone posher than me, because she is posh ish, as she describes her mum, and I’ve always believed posh sounding people want posh sounding partners. Her dad is working class from a council estate interestingly.
Anyway, I know many will just say move on etc, but I did agree to keep in contact as friends, and I had already agreed to send pictures of my holiday next week. So next day I made myself connect with several of the likes I hadn’t during these 5 weeks, plus a few more I’d found swiping that day and got chatting, which is what I know I could have done during those 5 weeks and knew if it went nowhere it wouldn’t be as easy to not be too bothered. And the point is she’s quite sad, upset and frustrated by it herself. And it kind of brings home one of the problems with internet dating. It gets people waiting for the perfect or ultimate man or a 100% compatible man. I don’t blame them for that but I don’t think it’s realistic.