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Dating Apps

Rudi Hedman said:
About 5 or so weeks ago I connected with a really nice lady. Arranged a date, then she had to postpone because she didn’t feel well. That turned into a really bad virus that lasted a few weeks. I decided to not multi date at this point because I could sense it wasn’t a good idea with her and I also got a bit bored with it, as people do I think.

Finally she recovers after we message each other every half a week and we have a really good first date in a bar for 4 hours. She only drinks one drink so it doesn’t require alcohol for her, not that it does for me. I had 3 beers so not a lot. Loads of positive body language etc. 2nd date the week after in a bar again and it was ok, only she sat opposite rather than next to me, and the folded arms happened late on. She acted awkwardly saying goodbye and turned the cheek at the goodbye hug. Oh dear

Next morning at 9am being the earliest opportunity to politely message and to save any embarrassment perhaps, she messages the half expected. Problem is there loads of positives, including how much she enjoys being with me, can be herself, tell me anything, really good connection and best she’s had internet dating, she got the sudden realisation at the end of the night she needs to process it all and came to the conclusion she’s not feeling enough intensity.

Now if she was plain not interested it would be easier to accept. Plus if she wasn’t such a nice person in a lot of ways too. But I’m told I’m this great guy that shouldn’t change in any way, internet dating was a disappointment until she met me and I will get snapped up quickly and how she knows it’s going to be a long time until she has such a strong connection like this again, plus kiss emojis. So why? But she did say something about meeting ‘’My person.’’ That could mean someone posher than me, because she is posh ish, as she describes her mum, and I’ve always believed posh sounding people want posh sounding partners. Her dad is working class from a council estate interestingly.

Anyway, I know many will just say move on etc, but I did agree to keep in contact as friends, and I had already agreed to send pictures of my holiday next week. So next day I made myself connect with several of the likes I hadn’t during these 5 weeks, plus a few more I’d found swiping that day and got chatting, which is what I know I could have done during those 5 weeks and knew if it went nowhere it wouldn’t be as easy to not be too bothered. And the point is she’s quite sad, upset and frustrated by it herself. And it kind of brings home one of the problems with internet dating. It gets people waiting for the perfect or ultimate man or a 100% compatible man. I don’t blame them for that but I don’t think it’s realistic.
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Sounds like she really likes you as a person, but more in a 'brotherly' rather than a 'fanciable' way.

Waiting for that 100% person is always doomed to end in disappointment - they simply don't exist, and personally I would want more than two dates to decide if I could live with the slight 'imperfections'.
 
becky said:
Sounds like she really likes you as a person, but more in a 'brotherly' rather than a 'fanciable' way.

Waiting for that 100% person is always doomed to end in disappointment - they simply don't exist, and personally I would want more than two dates to decide if I could live with the slight 'imperfections'.
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You’re probably right, and I think that if you make it passed the 1st date it’s worth 3 dates rather than just 2. Not every time out is wonderful.

I’ve dated 7 women since starting this in January, which could have been more with this 5 week period not talking to anyone else and a 2 week period where I was responding to 1 woman only every night. It was absolutely hilarious but she felt no spark meeting which was obvious and that was that. She saw herself as a classy lady from Lemington. This could be the problem. Those who want a posho. I’m somewhere in the middle.

There was one I went on one date with in the middle of those 2 weeks where it went really well, we agreed to date again and pretty much agreed to give it a go. Lots of chemistry going on. Not posh. But early on she said she doesn’t like dating apps and talked about the problems with the previous 2 men. Next day after the date she texts to say she doesn’t want a relationship with anybody, life too chaotic or something. Because we swapped numbers for WhatsApp at her request, she came up on my Facebook feed after I met her, so I had to look. True to her text, she doesn’t want a man in her life and claims she’s enjoying not having a man.

A bit of bad luck maybe but there’s women that I’ve connected with who’ve been doing this for quite a long time so…
 
I also get the impression that a lot of single, good looking and successful career women past birthing age, and I think there are a lot of them, want a man to match up to them.

Unfortunately because they have built successful careers, and well done them, there aren’t enough available men in similar positions, simply and obviously because of that shift.
 
Rudi Hedman said:
Just had a strange experience. I liked a nurse who’s listed as new, she likes back, thanks me for the like and asks me if I’m having a good weekend. I ask her what sort of nursing she does, my niece is a nurse etc. She then deletes her profile, I think. Maybe she’s blocked me but I think she’s deleted her profile. Women! Mad! 😂😂
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Probably geriatric from your photo. 😆
 
I met two mad women on the internet (one at a time), many years ago.
They were both completely bonkers, and I consider myself fortunate there were no more than three dates for both of them.
However, after meeting ladies via friends and socialising, i am fairly certain they are all completely mental. Well, they would have to be to consider dating me. 🙂
 
Forest Hillbilly said:
I met two mad women on the internet (one at a time), many years ago.
They were both completely bonkers, and I consider myself fortunate there were no more than three dates for both of them.
However, after meeting ladies via friends and socialising, i am fairly certain they are all completely mental. Well, they would have to be to consider dating me. 🙂
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As a hillybilly you are expected to marry your sister.
 
beak said:
As a hillybilly you are expected to marry your sister.
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Two-Tier-Kier prevents me mentioning certain types in the UK. Types that are always marrying their own cousin.
No Dating-Apps are needed when your elders will arrange it for you. And the massive financial costs to the NHS ? somebody else's problem.
 
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What happened to the good old 'Chat up Line', delivered as one sidled up to an attractive lady with a glint in ones eyes ?
In my day, there used to be 'Singles/Separates clubs' and 'Grab a granny nights' but I was never in attendance at such events.
 
One would assume you completed a thorough inspection of her Brazilian ? 🙂
 
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